The word “Mom” has a loads for responsibility attached to it. From the day we know about our pregnancy till we die we are continuously under pressure; are we, have we and will we be able to give our best is the fear that haunt us. Is being the best is what makes us a Mom? Or it’s just the pressure built up by family, friends and the society?
I feel just as we step into motherhood the woman dies in us, all we are now is just a Mother. I am a mother of a 5yr old and have been labelled “Bad Mom” by people around me. I let my kid eat junk, I allow her play games on phone and a lot more made me a bad mom. Trust me I don’t care now.
I used to be under tremendous pressure during the initial years of motherhood but now I have my rules and I am happy with it. Yes I do face criticism and ofcource the tag of being bad mom but I simply ignore. My child my rules.
So how to survive the pressure and do good for your kid and actually enjoy motherhood. So here I am sharing some tips or life hacks to make things easy.
👩👦The moment you are pregnant the entire nation is ready to “give some advice”. Here I must say stick to your doctor’s advice and discuss the “advice” given by any other person before practicing it. Do the same even after your child is born, the doctor knows more.
👩👦 Postpartum Depression: Many haven’t heard of it, it can be temporary or can have long-term effect your relationship with your kid as well as the people around you. You are exhausted, depressed or irritated at the early stage of motherhood and it’s normal, but if it prolong then you need help. Counseling helps a lot. Understand your need and act accordingly.
👩👦 Every child is different and needs to be handed differently. Family environment, influence of elders and a lot more are responsible for your kid’s behaviour and overall development. So if ever someone give you advice about how they do it, hear it but try only if you feel it’s possible for your kid.
👩👦 Now your kid is in school and the pressure is high. Believe me till 5th grade your kid’s academic performance hardly matters. The kid should know how to read and write and some maths. I come across parents who continue to push their kid to perform better than best and then flaunt how best their kid is. Let your kid do things on their own, you can help if its needed. This will make them independent and will help in long-term.
👩👦Take the “Me Time” break whenever possible. And me time means it should only be about you. Put your husband incharge of taking care of your kid. No matter what take a break atleast once fortnight. Spa, shopping for yourself, movie or hangout with friends anything that makes “you” happy.
👩👦Stay away form women who cries and cribs about the life they have and then do the honour of giving themselves credit of handling everything singlehandedly with a smile as they love the family. Trust me they fake their life.
👩👦It’s ok if your kid ate junk the entire day or didn’t score good in any test or isn’t dressed best in some family function. It’s absolutely ok, you and your kid both are in their learning phase. You are learning how to be a better mom and your child is learning how to be a good human first and foremost.
I am a bad mom, irresponsible, ignorant and what not and I don’t care. It’s ok to make mistakes that means we are learning something. Don’t compare yourself and let other judge the way you are handling things . Being a Mom itself is a lot and don’t let people spoil the experience. We are the Millennial Mom and we do things differently.